HOW TO MAINTAIN BOUNDARIES IN RELATIONSHIPS

1. Ask directly for what you want.
2. Have the capacity to nurture and self soothe, it builds an inner, intuitive sense that lets you know when your boundaries are being invaded and when a relationship is hurtful, abusive or invasive.
3. Attempt to objectively observe another's behavior towards you - taking it in as information. This will empower you to decide how much you will accept of what someone says or does.
4. Maintain a bottom line - a limit to how many times you allow someone to say no, lie, disappoint or betray you before you will admit the painful reality that the relationship is not working and remove yourself.
5. Change you locus of control from others to yourself, be able to make your decisions and choices through inner deliberation.